Sunday, August 20, 2006

One year later.....




Wow! We can't believe a year has passed since we returned from China with our wonderful daughter. It has been a crazy, tiring, amazing year!

Now 22 months old, Mae is everything we could have ever hoped for and so much more. She is a constant bundle of energy and smiles. She is very happy, madly in love with her brothers and Magnus (the dog), and extremely strong-willed. She is super smart, which paired with the strong will makes her quite a force to be reckoned with! She loves to climb, there is not a surface in our home that she has not climbed up to! She is flexible beyond belief and has an uncanny grace. She seldom falls from her climbing adventures, but when she does it is like watching a professional stunt woman!

One of the best parts of the past year has been watching Mae bond with Charlie and Henry. Henry adores her and they have a great time together. But she and Charlie are quite the team. Most people still assume they are twins until they look more closely and that is , in fact, the relationship they have. From morning to night they do everything together. Their faces light up when they see each other in the morning or after a nap. When one of them is lagging behind in getting to their highchair the other points and whines until they are happily beside them and ready to eat. Then the food fight antics begin...they crack themselves up while mom loses her mind!

Thanks for checking in on us. A full year later it is so easy to see that the "red thread" theory has proven itself to us. Mae was destined to be our daughter and sister from the start.

Thursday, January 19, 2006

A Few More Pictures!




I finally downloaded our Christmas photos and thought I'd add a few to the blog.

Mae and Charlie had their one-year (Charlie) and 15-month (Mae) doctor appointment last week. Mae weighed 20 pounds, Charlie 21. Mae was 29 inches long, Charlie was 30. Charlie sat and smiled through the entire appointment, not even crying when they drew blood from his finger! Mae screamed like a crazy woman when Dr Chao got within 2 feet of her. You can imagine how well the shots went over. Luckily, it was all over very quickly and everyone was happy to be in the car with bottles and the Wiggles Safari! Our little Mae is a spitfire like no other and we love her to pieces.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006

Happy New Year!!






Well, so much for posting every month! How about every three?! Needless to say, Mae and Charlie are keeping me very busy. Mae turned one on October 17th and we had a wonderful bash with friends and family. She was quite the little princess! Didn't care much for the cake, though.

Fast forward to mid December. Thinking back to Mae's first birthday, I can't believe how much she has changed in those 2 months. She is really quite a ham and loves to get applause for her "tricks". She took her first steps December 15th and is still walking with both hands straight over her head and a big grin on her face. We are amazed every day at how bright she is. She loves to figure out all of the toys, remotes, cupboards, drawers, etc...! She and Charlie are best of friends and make quite a team. They play peek-a-boo and pass food to each other while in their highchairs. Every day I watch them together and feel so fortunate to have them both. What blessings they are!

Both babies adore their big brother, Henry. Henry is enjoying kindergarten and learning to read. He loves to read to Mae and Charlie. They both hit the jackpot in the big brother category!

Christmas was extra special this year with two first Christmases in our house! We tried to have Mae visit Santa but she was not too thrilled with the idea! She was screaming, Henry was smiling, and Charlie just stared at Santa's white beard. It made for a rather funny photo.

Happy New Year everyone. We are looking forward to 2006. 2005 was quite a wild ride and brought us much to be thankful for. We wish you all the best in the year ahead.

Thursday, October 13, 2005

Baptism




We had a wonderful Baptism day! Mae, Charlie, and their cousin, Paige, were all baptized together. They were all troopers! Brunch followed, and again, they made us proud! Here are a few photos we took on the lawn that afternoon.

We are gearing up for Mae's first birthday party this Saturday!

Wednesday, September 14, 2005

Settling In






Hi All! Well, we have been home over 3 weeks and things are going really well. Mae is a delight. She is blossoming into a happy little girl who usually has a big smile on her face. She is crawling everywhere and loves to get into everything. She is SO curious and never misses a trick. She will be keeping us on our toes! Charlie and she are just starting to pay attention to one another and it is such fun to see them interact. Henry is a terrrific big brother, entertaining the babies every moment he is home. They don't take their eyes off of him! He has started back to kindergarten today and is very happy to be back among his peers.

We are so lucky to have such great friends and family. We have appreciated all of the emails and well-wishes. We had no idea so many people were watching our journey to Mae! Several people have asked similar questions about our adoption process and we thought we would answer them here.

First, our agency was CCAI, based in Centennial, CO. They are one of the largest adoption agencies placing children from China. We cannot say enough good things about them. The median age of the parents who adopt from China is 44. We were among the younger couples in our travel group. There were couples in their forties and fifties. We met 2 families while in China that were "starting over". They had children in their late twenties at home.

The average wait from the application to travel is about 12 months. It can be done in 9-10 months. The first part of the process revolves around the gathering of the paperwork. It can be done in 2-3 months if it is given top priority. Once the paperwork is sent to China, the wait to referral (picture of your baby) is about 6 months. Travel follows 5-7 weeks later.

The babies are abandoned in China due to the "one-child per couple policy". A baby boy will grow up and ensure that the parents are taken care of in their old age, while a baby girl is expected to take care of her future husband's family. This is just one of many issues facing mothers in China. Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son, by Kay Ann Johnson is the best book to read if you want a good understanding of what is going on in China to result in the hundreds of thousands of girls who are in need of a family.

We are very open to any questions anyone may have. Even though my journey to Mae truly began when I was twelve years old and our neighbors adopted a little girl from Korea, it began anew when I sat in front of my computer in January of 2004. I read my very first blog written by a family in China bringing home their daughter. When Rich found me an hour later, I was in a pool of tears, balled-up kleenex strewn across the floor, and I was certain that OUR daughter was also in China. A few blogs, and a couple of months later, Rich was certain she was there as well. And she was!

We are going to update the blog every month or so, at least for a while. Thanks again for your kindness. We can't wait until all of you can meet Mae in person!

Love,
Melissa

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

We're home, totally exhausted


Where to begin since our last post?? I guess I'll start where we left off -- Friday in Guangzhou. We woke up to the dreariest, rainiest, foggiest morning in 10 days and went down to have our last (thankfully) breakfast at the big 'ol buffet. Afterwards, Melissa, Henry, Mae and I took a cab back to the department store we visited earlier during our stay to get a couple things we still needed, as well as a promised toy for Henry. It was actually quite enjoyable -- much less crazy than the first time we went. Afterwards, we got fries and drinks at a MacDonald's in the store, and then ventured outside to a street vendor to buy a needed suitcase. Outside, we saw some apparent department store security guard trainees getting briefed by their boss, all lined up military style. Hopped a cab back to the hotel and began packing while Mel went back out with Mae for last minute gifts and Val and Henry played with Henry's new toy. Then Melissa, Mae and I took a bus with the rest of the adopting families clear across the city (45 minutes away, and still in a huge, gleaming, skyscraper-filled part of the city) to finalize our adoption of Mae at the American Consulate's office. While we were there, a nice guy who was part of our group and who was there with his wife adopting their second daughter described some sobering facts to us: 200,000 to 300,000 babies, mostly girls, become orphans each year in China. Only 10 to 20 percent of them are adopted each year. So many families in our group were returning for their second daughters and we were able to see first-hand what their beautiful 5 and 6 year-old first daughters had become. Incredibly bright, funny, perfectly well-adjusted little American girls. It's really eye opening when you think about these facts. So easy to see why it is so difficult to NOT return to China to bring home another miracle. Said goodbyes afterwards to most of the families who had to take a bus to Hong Kong for their departure, and then three families, including us, took our own hotel shuttle back to the hotel in the dreariness at around 5:30. The rest of the evening and night consisted of pizza and ravioli take out from Danny's Bagels, packing, packing, and more packing, last minute souvenirs and gifts from downstairs at the hotel, and other t-crossing and i-dotting. Got up at 4:45 the next morning (arghhh!!) for a 5:40 bus ride to the Guangzhou airport in the rain. This was the beginning of our travel home day from hell.

At the Guangzhou airport, said goodbye to one of our reps, Maggie, and then everything went smoothly until we had to wait in a creeping, Disney World-like winding line in an under-air-conditioned room that smelled like paint remover. We had an 8:25 flight to catch and this made us really pushed for time. So, we had to hightail it to our gate, dragging all our pounds and pounds of carry-on luggage to the gate while also pushing a stroller. It seemed like it couldn't possibly be any farther. We checked the stroller at the gate (to never see it again -- seriously), got on the plane with all our gear (and a baby this time, for the first time!), then proceeded to wait on the plane for at least an hour because of the foul weather in Hong Kong. We finally took off and the ride, although a bit turbulent, was pretty uneventful, considering it was Mae's first plane trip ever, until we arrived in Hong Kong airspace. A monsoon, more or less, was in full bore. The plane taxied, then stopped, about two hundred feet from the terminal. Everybody immediately took their seatbelts off and stood up and got their carry-ons. Then everybody waited. And waited. And waited. Mae started crying. We looked outside and the rain was blowing sideways. Melissa said a shuttle bus had just pulled up along side the plane. It was excruciating. Then, almost unbelievably, the crew began passing out clear plastic disposable rain parkas!! They were going to have us descend the stairs of the plane, into the monsoon, carrying all our carry-ons, babies, etc., to get in the waiting shuttle bus! What a nightmare. Why couldn't the plane stop at a terminal gate, I asked, but got no answer. Due to the huge winds, rain came in to the plane, rain parkas blew off the second we stepped onto the staircase, and we all ended up soaked. When we finally got on the shuttle bus and were taken to the terminal, a Continental person was waiting for us to usher us, at lightspeed, with all our stuff, through the Hong Kong airport to the Continental ticket counter, and then even faster to the gate for our next flight. Second flight of the day, second time running through the airport, sweating like mad. We had thought we'd have at least an hour at the Hong Kong airport to get a drink and relax. Boy were we wrong. I and my carry-ons got checked three times as we negotiated the Hong Kong airport, the last time halfway down the plane's gate tunnel. I don't know what the problem was -- maybe I was sweating too much and they were all suspicious. We finally got on the plane with no time to spare, and began our 14.5 hour long flight. The flight to Newark from Hong Kong was only slightly bearable, as this time, we had to endure it holding a baby (and again in the ridiculously tight economy seats). It was cool looking out the window at one point of the flight -- it was like a perpetual sunset or sunrise on the horizon -- I'm not sure which since we were looking north somewhere over Alaska. Really gorgeous. Mae was really great on the flghts (but was obviously very uncomfortable anytime we landed -- most likely from the pressure in her ears, what with a cold she had developed and all), and amazing Henry slept for more than half of the flight. Speaking of Henry, he was really, truly great during this adventure of ours. It's easy to expect a lot from a kid and forget that he just turned 5. Like any 5 year old, he had a few moments, but there were only a few, and we just had to remember that he was 6000 miles outside his comfort zone, jet lagged, and doing stuff many adults would themselves get tired of doing. We are very lucky to have him. He took to Mae immediately and she to him. So, back to the trip. We landed in Newark, not a moment too soon, and negotiated our way to immigration and customs no problem. Mae became an American citizen when the plane's wheels touched the ground. Because our bags had to clear customs, they were removed and we had to get them and then recheck them. We thought we'd have like 2 hours in Newark to take a breath, get some sodas, etc., but NOOOO. Instead, we spent over an hour waiting for one of our 5 checked bags to show up on the luggage carousel, to no avail. Come to find out, some of the bags back in Hong Kong never made the flight. We wouldn't know if ours was one of them until we arrived in Raleigh (it was, and we've since retrieved it from the Raleigh airport). So, by this time, we were about late for our flight home to Raleigh and now had to hightail it, yet again, for the third and final time to make a flight. 3 flights, 3 times pouring sweat as we bumped our way down the plane's aisle to our seats. Melissa had been dreaming all day about our stop in Newark, freshening up, a Diet Coke with actual ice, maybe a bagel. It took all of her willpower not to jump the man who boarded the plane in front of us carrying a huge Starbucks bag. Anyhow, we must have had a wicked tailwind from Newark to Raleigh because we made spectactular time and arrived a half hour early. Finally home!! As we descended down the escalators to the baggage claim area, we saw the massive welcoming committee for Mae, made up of our family and friends. What a great sight to behold, signs, balloons and all!. After a while trying to figure out where our last bag was (and one of Val's, which didn't make it from Newark to Raleigh), we piled into the cars and made the long awaited drive back home. Three very, very, very tiring days later, I'm just now getting to writing up this last post. It's been hard since we've been home, with way too little sleep being had by all (and for Melissa, on top of a bad cold she picked up a day before we left), but things will of course get much better. Melissa and I got to bed at 12 am on Saturday night, and Henry and I were up at 3:30 (for good), watching a Best of Country Music infomercial. The next night, we got to bed at 1 am and were awoken (again, for good) by Mae at 3 am. Two nights ago was a little better (relatively speaking), with all three kids in bed asleep by 7:30, Melissa in bed asleep by 8, and me in bed asleep by 8:45. But then Mae was up at 11 (graciously falling back asleep until 5), Charlie was up at 3:30, Henry was up at 4:00 (for good), Melissa was up for an hour or so with Henry, and I was up at 4:45 (for good). Last night was still better, with Henry sleeping from 7:30 to 6:45 straight. Us and Mae, not so much. Everyone but me is asleep now tonight, at 10:30. Hopefully no one will wake up in the 3s, 4s or 5s. I'm not optimistic, though.

Anyway, it's fantastic to be back in the comfort of our own home, with our family complete. We are printing this entire blog out as a journal of our trip. Mae should enjoy having it someday. Sorry for boring you with every last detail, but we want Mae to have every detail we can muster up. So long for now, reality awaits. We'll update sporadically as life soldiers on. Thanks for all your love and support. We are so blessed and lucky.

And here is the last round of pictures -- sorry so many seem the same. We were obviously trying hard to capture good ones. http://www.flickr.com/photos/caira/sets/827898/

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Mass mayhem


We hung out in the room for a while after breakfast, and then Henry and I again went swimming for a while while Melissa, Mae and Val went out to finish up on the shopping. Then we all went downstairs for the famous "red sofa" pictures. With 17 families, it was total, complete, utter mayhem I tell you!! Almost impossible to get good pictures, but some were actually pulled off. Apparently, 17 is one of the largest groups, if not the largest group that has ever been formed. Mae was a real character -- trying to flip over onto her stomach, etc. Afterwards, a group of us who have become close walked back the 5 blocks or so to the great Thai restaurant we went to as a whole group the other night, called the Cow and Bridge, for a kind of farewell dinner. We all got really great meals again. I didn't order the chicken feet, but I did snap a shot of the delicious looking goose foot that's on the menu (there are pictures of everything in the menu, fortunately). Check it out! Henry sat next to a five year old girl, Georgia, and they seemed to have a great time chatting each other up. One interesting fact we forgot to write about earlier -- getting napkins at sit-down meals around here is like pulling teeth!! You either get nothing, or you get like a wet nap, or you are offered tissues. Not sure what the deal is there. And in Beijing at no less than three restrooms, the attendants would offer like a six foot piece of toilet paper for drying your hands after washing them, all folded up nicely into about a ten inch piece. We would invariably end up walking away picking toilet paper pieces off our still wet hands! As we were about to leave the restaurant tonight, the sky opened up. We waited it out about 10 minutes to no avail, so we made a break for it and all got thouroughly soaked. It was actually kind of fun. Not before a guy at the restaurant offered to walk a group of us back under a patio umbrella that he showed us he would hold. I don't know why we turned him down, but we did. I don't think we all would have fit under the umbrella, even though it was huge. I ended the night by smoking a Cuban cigar outside next to the river, overlooking the city, to celebrate and reflect on all of our children and our now complete family. We feel extremely blessed and fortunate to have these children and for our entire extended family and our friends.

We're off to the U.S. consulate tomorrow to get Mae's visa as the last thing we must do here in China for the adoption. As soon as Mae hits U.S. soil on Saturday (1 day!!), she becomes an American citizen. We'll have to get up at like 4:00 or4:30 am on Saturday morning to go to the Guangzhou airport to catch our flight to Hong Kong, so there may be a very short post tomorrow or no post at all since we'll have to be in bed relatively early (it's 12:33 am now). We'll see.

As for the photos of the day, here they are -- http://www.flickr.com/photos/caira/sets/776559/
Check out the red couch photo of Mae with her legs up in the air; that is her buddy Mya on the left, clearly disgusted with Mae's inappropriate antics! A fun red thread, Melissa and Amy (Mya's mommy), got acquainted through email before travel to China. Once we got here, the two families hit it off immediately and have had so much fun together. When we received the photo album and disposable cameras back from the orphanage, Mya and Mae were side by side in almost all of the shots...clearly forever friends! An explanation is required for another picture -- the one of me acting like a fool was for Henry. Before he went to bed, he set a booby trap for me with a robe belt, a wooden sword, and a stuffed panda. Val promised him she'd take a picture of me getting caught in it. So that's me, caught in the booby trap. Ahhhhh!

Love,

R, M, H & M